I really wish there had been a person blogging about the first month after Sammy was born. Just so that other first time mommies could see that they aren't alone.
If I had been able to blog in that first month of Sammy's life I would have had bogs that talked about being awake All. Night. Long. I'd have had frustrations about not being able to put him down without him crying. Failures in breast feeding. WHAT THE HELL AM I DOING?!?!?
I remember asking Jesse (my husband) "who's bright idea was it to let us bring this child home??" I had no clue sometimes. I literally changed my first diaper (yes that's EVER) in the hospital with Sammy. It was Jesse's first as well. My mom just sat back and watched us get poop everywhere and then get peed on. We learned a lot during that first diaper change. And I mentally thank her for letting us learn on our own. Then offering tips afterward.
So I guess what I'm trying to say is that if you are a new mom or an already mom with a new baby, it's ok to feel overwhelmed. There is always help, just ask. It's ok to cry as loud if not louder than your baby. Take advantage of advice from mommies. Also take that advice and make it work for you.
We all have to start somewhere and we always have room to learn more.
Monday, October 29, 2012
Tuesday, October 16, 2012
Moms are HUMAN!
I read a blog called even moms make mistakes... After reading it I think it should have been titled Even mom are human. I didn't think they look like mistakes so much as how people deal with things that happen.
Have you ever forgot to pack the diapers?
I have! I have gone places with Sammy without extra diapers in my bag. And once we are at a doctor's appointment and I smaller something stinky and had to run all the way home to change him. I've also for got to bring diapers when daddy had to watch him for class.... He had to ride home with no diaper... And mommy crossed her fingers for no accidents. It happens... And they survive.
Have you ever given your child a cookie just so they'll eat SOMETHING?
I have! "mommy, I hungee to eat" it's lunch time so I fix some chicken and bananas and he won't touch any of it. I try crackers and he eats those but they don't fill him up. I offer something else "no way" ahhhh!!!!!!! stopping at the drive through for chicken nuggets...when he eats it I'm happy. And he survived.
Have you ever been so busy that washing dishes or laundry is LAST on your list of important things?
I have been! The dishes are piling up, Sammy's on his last clean t'shirt. And I've been wearing the same pj pants for 3 days.... It happens. But eventually dishes get washed, clothes washed folded and if you are really ambitious put away! And we all survive!
Has your child ever hit their head on the floor and said "shit" because he heard you say it earlier??
Mine has! I have a potty mouth (so does daddy) it's something I try to watch... But when he repeats those words I try not to laugh (so hard to do) and shake my head. He rarely repeats what I say but it happens... And we survive!
Have you ever felt like pulling your hair out?
I have! I've had to put a crying baby down walk away... Take a few deep breaths... Cry.... Then back to being mommy... We've survived.
Mommies are human! If you arenot a mommy, be nice to them... If you are a mommy, be nice to yourself!
Have you ever forgot to pack the diapers?
I have! I have gone places with Sammy without extra diapers in my bag. And once we are at a doctor's appointment and I smaller something stinky and had to run all the way home to change him. I've also for got to bring diapers when daddy had to watch him for class.... He had to ride home with no diaper... And mommy crossed her fingers for no accidents. It happens... And they survive.
Have you ever given your child a cookie just so they'll eat SOMETHING?
I have! "mommy, I hungee to eat" it's lunch time so I fix some chicken and bananas and he won't touch any of it. I try crackers and he eats those but they don't fill him up. I offer something else "no way" ahhhh!!!!!!! stopping at the drive through for chicken nuggets...when he eats it I'm happy. And he survived.
Have you ever been so busy that washing dishes or laundry is LAST on your list of important things?
I have been! The dishes are piling up, Sammy's on his last clean t'shirt. And I've been wearing the same pj pants for 3 days.... It happens. But eventually dishes get washed, clothes washed folded and if you are really ambitious put away! And we all survive!
Has your child ever hit their head on the floor and said "shit" because he heard you say it earlier??
Mine has! I have a potty mouth (so does daddy) it's something I try to watch... But when he repeats those words I try not to laugh (so hard to do) and shake my head. He rarely repeats what I say but it happens... And we survive!
Have you ever felt like pulling your hair out?
I have! I've had to put a crying baby down walk away... Take a few deep breaths... Cry.... Then back to being mommy... We've survived.
Mommies are human! If you arenot a mommy, be nice to them... If you are a mommy, be nice to yourself!
Tuesday, October 2, 2012
Things happen for a reason...just believe.
It's October. It's also infant and pregnancy loss awareness month. I was not sure I'd ever really be able to talk about our struggles and losses. I usually (if I have to) mention it very fast, then on to the next subject. So I'll say it now. Before having Jake we had 3 miscarriages. All in one year. P
In January of 2011 we decided to start trying for another baby. With Sammy the only person who knew we were trying to have a baby was my best friend Robin. With this baby for some reason we told everyone, at least that's what it felt like. It took a couple months but in march of 2011 we found out we were pregnant. I announced it on Facebook and called our families. It was a happy time indeed. It was almost Sammy's first birthday too. There were a lot of happy things going on. About a week after finding out I was pregnant I woke up with awful cramps. Called the doctor and they ordered lab work. Confirmed that we had lost our baby. I was so lost. I didn't know what to do. The doctors up here were no help. A receptionist called to tell me I'd lost my baby I never even saw a nurse. And worst of all I called all my close friends to tell them what had happened. It was then we decided that we would wait to announce a baby if we get pregnant again. We didn't realize how fast it would happen. In April (yes one month later) we were pregnant again.
This one, I thought, had to be my miracle baby. It was my birthday baby. But the same thing that happened with the last pregnancy happened again. Woke up with cramps, blood work, receptionist called with bad news. I remember thinking that I wanted to stop trying because there was no way I could go through this again. I started seeing a family physician who said he would stick with me if I were to get pregnant again. Promised he'd tell me of I lost a baby not a stranger on the phone. I had him put me on a birth control pill. Because I was done. My husband and I did a lot of talking and we knew we didn't want Sammy to be an only child. We wanted another baby. In July we tried again and again we got pregnant and again suffered a horrible loss.
After this loss my doctor sent me to an OB/GYN. They ran loads of tests. Took vials and vials of blood. I had a special ultrasound done to see if there were any abnormalities. After about $2,000 worth of tests ($500 of which wasn't covered by insurance) it was concluded that I am fine and we just have a serious case of "bad luck." We were told to wait 3 months to allow my body to heal and try again. I'll admit I was beaten. And Jesse, I'm sure, was at a loss of what he could do.
I threw myself into school, Sammy, and throwing a bridal shower for my best friend. I tried to keep extremely busy do that the 3 month count down would go faster. It was horrible. The happy ending of the story is we did (finally) get pregnant, and stay pregnant! Jake is the miracle baby. And I am so very thankful for him. But what an awful year I'd love to forget.
I think we are done having babies. I would absolutely die if I had to go through that again. A long time friend of mine sent me an angel that said "things happen for a reason just believe" and as mad as it makes me that something so horrible had to happen I wouldn't have my Jake if it didn't.
I believe that the people who go before us watch over us and I feel better knowing my sons have 3 siblings to watch over them.
In January of 2011 we decided to start trying for another baby. With Sammy the only person who knew we were trying to have a baby was my best friend Robin. With this baby for some reason we told everyone, at least that's what it felt like. It took a couple months but in march of 2011 we found out we were pregnant. I announced it on Facebook and called our families. It was a happy time indeed. It was almost Sammy's first birthday too. There were a lot of happy things going on. About a week after finding out I was pregnant I woke up with awful cramps. Called the doctor and they ordered lab work. Confirmed that we had lost our baby. I was so lost. I didn't know what to do. The doctors up here were no help. A receptionist called to tell me I'd lost my baby I never even saw a nurse. And worst of all I called all my close friends to tell them what had happened. It was then we decided that we would wait to announce a baby if we get pregnant again. We didn't realize how fast it would happen. In April (yes one month later) we were pregnant again.
This one, I thought, had to be my miracle baby. It was my birthday baby. But the same thing that happened with the last pregnancy happened again. Woke up with cramps, blood work, receptionist called with bad news. I remember thinking that I wanted to stop trying because there was no way I could go through this again. I started seeing a family physician who said he would stick with me if I were to get pregnant again. Promised he'd tell me of I lost a baby not a stranger on the phone. I had him put me on a birth control pill. Because I was done. My husband and I did a lot of talking and we knew we didn't want Sammy to be an only child. We wanted another baby. In July we tried again and again we got pregnant and again suffered a horrible loss.
After this loss my doctor sent me to an OB/GYN. They ran loads of tests. Took vials and vials of blood. I had a special ultrasound done to see if there were any abnormalities. After about $2,000 worth of tests ($500 of which wasn't covered by insurance) it was concluded that I am fine and we just have a serious case of "bad luck." We were told to wait 3 months to allow my body to heal and try again. I'll admit I was beaten. And Jesse, I'm sure, was at a loss of what he could do.
I threw myself into school, Sammy, and throwing a bridal shower for my best friend. I tried to keep extremely busy do that the 3 month count down would go faster. It was horrible. The happy ending of the story is we did (finally) get pregnant, and stay pregnant! Jake is the miracle baby. And I am so very thankful for him. But what an awful year I'd love to forget.
I think we are done having babies. I would absolutely die if I had to go through that again. A long time friend of mine sent me an angel that said "things happen for a reason just believe" and as mad as it makes me that something so horrible had to happen I wouldn't have my Jake if it didn't.
I believe that the people who go before us watch over us and I feel better knowing my sons have 3 siblings to watch over them.
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